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Wednesday, January 17, 2007

Expectations

好人会有好报，恶人会有恶报，若有不报，时辰未到。
人不为己天诛地灭。好人难做。

People are often remembered for their flaws and mistakes; weaknesses and misgivings amplified, rarely for their sincerity and kindness; strengths and givings taken for granted.

It is only natural not to ask for anything from people who are not prepared to give; but is a balance achieved when we ask for more from people who are prepared to give?

posted by kiddy at 21:24

8 Comments:

  • I don't think you will even "need to ask" from people who are prepared to give.. And I don't think it is "natural" to not ask from the other group of people. More of a habit and fixed notion that most likely they will not reciprocate and u just give up asking after some tries?

    But of course, I feel that it is very noble to give and hope that the other party appreciates what you have done, without asking anything for return. *Something to encourage...* Being appreciative is already something that has been reciprocated too! Also.. not expecting anything in return saves u the energy of getting upset or angry or any other negative emotions that you may have!

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 18/1/07 21:59  

  • I absolutely agree with the not expecting anything in return part cos usually one will just end up with disappointment. Whatever does come back is just a bonus. =)

    Problem is what if along the way people not only didn't appreciate, instead became critical because they had "expected" more from one?

    By Blogger kiddy, at 18/1/07 22:15  

  • Then it's not your problem, but theirs right? As long as I feel that I have done my best to provide for whoever asks, I can answer to my conscience. Furthermore, it doesn't make sense to criticise you when you have done a lot!

    Well.. Some time ago, someone whom I know gave a talk and someone in the audience completely discounted all that he has done! I believe anyone can imagine his anger, right? But he just took it in his stride, and exclaimed, "How can he not appreciate all that I have done?!" And then, completely disregarded that person in the audience.

    I think at the end of the day, as long as you believe that you are able to answer to yourself, that's fine already!

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 19/1/07 13:49  

  • Hmmm...yet we often say its important to take other people's feedback seriously =)

    anyhow one's problem will always seem to be a bigger problem then other people's problem; one's contribution will always seem to be greater than other people's contribution =P

    But I must agree "esteem-wise", really need to just concentrate on being accountable to oneself. =)

    By Blogger Unknown, at 20/1/07 00:06  

  • Yes, agree with taking feedback seriously.. Not saying that own opinion = the best (That will be too arrogant :p) But shall we condition how much to accept the feedback based on how reasonable it is? :)

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 20/1/07 01:38  

  • Perhaps I am being cynical. Sometimes people's feedback may not be totally sincere and taking it seriously may even be detrimental.

    We should be open to feedback but yet take it with a pinch of salt.

    At the end of the day, we should also just do it within our means. It is impossible to please everyone. Sometimes by trying to please everyone, we may end up pleasing no one.

    By Blogger SJ, at 21/1/07 17:59  

  • Haiz...I wonder how the world would be like if everyone was honest and sincere...

    By Blogger kiddy, at 22/1/07 00:42  

  • I am not sure if the world will necessarily be better when everyone is sincere and honest. Maybe I am being Ah Q, but there are some things I would rather not know the truth of, so we have something known as white lies.

    Perhaps I should add on. In addition to sincerity, the underlying intention of a feedback is also important.

    I am just wondering if there can be instances when others are extremely harsh in their feedback so as to discredit your efforts.In another case, it may be to motivate you further. They are the same feedback and given with the same sincerity but with different intentions and may bring about different consequences.

    By Blogger SJ, at 22/1/07 12:42  

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